Your twenties are the only time in your life where you can
be selfish. You do not have to obey to your parents. You do not have children
to worry about. You do not have a husband you need to be attached to. You can
live wherever you want, have any job you want, do whatever YOU want.
So why are so many of us rushing in to marriage and
parenthood?
I know that I’m personally going to be as selfish as I can
for as long as I can because when else will I have this brief moment to be? This
is the first time in history where a woman can be completely independent, with a
surplus of opportunities at our doorsteps.
Our mothers, our grandmothers, and women before us have
paved this path for us to live. We can own property and we can vote. We can
have any job a man can do. We have the access to full education and we have the
ability to live on our own without having to worry about a man supporting us. We
have finally broken through the glass ceiling that centuries have been fighting
to do. We have an entry to lives that so many women before us wished they could
have.
Before I make the decision to spend the rest of my life with
someone else, I want to make sure I have my OWN life for him to be apart of. I
will choose a career that I can support myself with without the need for a
husband. I want to live in a city I prefer without worrying if my husband needs
to relocate. I want to have my own schedule without having to worry about
another persons on top of it. I want to be my own person with my own friends,
my own money, and my own support before I allow a man to have a say in my life.
I have been with my boyfriend for almost four years, since I
was in high school. While making my decision on what college I wanted to go to,
my boyfriend would not allow me to stay in my home town because he knew my
dreams took me elsewhere. I ended up leaving my home to a school over two hours
away and I am in a major that will make me happy.
Maybe I am just one of the lucky girls that found a great
guy, but I think every girl should have the time of her life where she can
shine on her own. My boyfriend supports me in absolutely everything I do. He
cheers me on when I apply to my dream internships, and I know he will do the
same when I apply for my dream jobs.
My boyfriend knows that when I graduate I will get a full
time job, hopefully near a beach. He also knows that I need to make all these
life-changing decisions on my own, because love can make you forget about your
happiness, and sometimes doesn’t allow you to be selfish.
My boyfriend and I have been long distance for over two
years, and have made it work. We both know we need to graduate, get full time
jobs, live on our own in the cities of our choosing, and then maybe we will get
married. Just because you love and trust someone when your twenty something
does not mean you need to be married.
It doesn’t matter what age a young women decides to get
married. What does matter is that she has her own life and her own means to
support herself before she does so. Every woman should have the aspiration to
achieve a degree, establish a career, and live in the city of her dreams because
we CAN before she dreams of being a wife.
Don’t forget to be selfish.
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